I am usually very optimistic, detached and poised. But on July 14th, on Bastille day, equivalent to the American 4th of July my country was attacked again. Fear for my family and then anger totally overwhelmed me. I don’t want to blame anyone, not even those perpetrators who certainly are either mentally challenged or who lost their humanness. I was angry because I felt powerless. One of the worse feelings ever. You feel paralyzed. At the effect of life.
Many of you have experienced this feeling and then choose anger because it feels better than being powerless. But you are still in a realm of what we call catabolic energy. A draining energy that sucks everything out of you if you do not pay attention.
So, I had 2 very short nights, and very long day before I chose to finally move up to energy levels that would not only make me feel better but also generate positive vibes for this world! A place where we all win.
So what do we do to channel the draining energy of victimhood and anger towards a more constructive energy?
First you want to prepare the ground. In this case preparing the ground would be to simply notice what is happening.
What thoughts are coming up repeatedly? What other feelings do those thoughts generate?
Stay in observation mode as long as needed.
When we notice, we tend to be more upset at first. If you find yourself there, you are in the right place. Keep going!
The next step is to fertilize the ground so we can then plant the seed of change.
This is when you realize where you are and imagine where you want to be. We want to feel at peace, have cleared minds so we can think, design solutions or focus on helping others.
Write down where you want to be, how you want to feel, think about the ideal situation. You do not need a journal, a simple piece of paper, a draft email opened if you are a multitasker or an app on your phone. This step will help you lower your level of stress, reconnect with your thinking capabilities, and help you see potential options.
At this stage, you are ready to plant the seed of change to shift your catabolic energy into a rejuvenating energy.
The seed you want to plant is the ideal or portion of it. Today in my case, preparing the ground was about identifying the story I was telling myself. Then fertilizing the ground was about thinking and imagining how I wanted to show up, support, and make a difference in this world. What could it be? How would it make me feel? And, what could be the potential outcome?
The seed, or what we call intention when aiming for sustainable change, I planted was about channeling my sense of powerlessness and my anger towards something that would make me feel good, empowered, and healthier mentally, emotionally and physically. I also wanted it to ideally impact others positively. So, I drove to home depot bought and literally set up a raised garden bed in less than 45 minutes, planted herbs in one corner of my outdoor patio, replanted all my other plants and ended by pressure washing my pathway and cleaning my windows.
The process does not end here when you are looking for sustainable change.
I felt accomplished, very positive, while I was working hard setting up my garden, my stress level lowered, my mind was filled with positive thoughts about the upcoming plants, then delicious, healthy and free fruits and veggies Yann and I will enjoy in a few weeks.
I can tell you as well I felt great as my body moved some muscles I did not remember existed, I already feel the soreness in my arms and my shoulders and most importantly I know I will have a restful night.
Mentally, I was given so much energy and creative ideas on how to help others as well and I am confident more will germinate in the next few days.
The fourth step in my process for sustainable change is to water the plant. Like in gardening, what is important is not what you sow but how you take care of your plant. Without water, unless it is a cactus, you will not reap any fruits, veggies, or any flowers. It is the same with your intention, it must be nurtured to become a strong habit part of your new paradigm. My way of fostering my intention was to decide to write a script for this first episode of Planting the Seeds of Change on anger and talk about how we can all shift our energy into a constructive one. This initiative will ultimately keep me on track with my desire to feel good, show up positively and make a difference in this world. So, as you might guess, this is the first episode of a long series.
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How to Recycle Negative Energy from Today’s World Events to Make a Difference
There are many dramatic and saddening events that have happened in the world as of late. We’ve been almost overwhelmed with stress and negativity related to politics and world events.
This energy is contagious. Negative things are absolutely everywhere online and offline. I’m usually optimistic and I know how to practice detached involvement, but still this negative energy has had an impact on me.
Two places that I call home, Paris and Orlando, have been targeted in terror attacks. I didn’t want to blame anyone for this and feel a sense of victimhood because that’s just who I am. I believe there is a way for people to redeem themselves and I don’t want to judge at all.
Take Responsibility for Your Emotions
At the same time, I felt powerless. This is one of the worst feelings ever. When a situation seems unfair, negative thoughts and patterns follow that end up having an impact on everything in your life.
Many of us choose anger in this situation because it seems better than feeling powerless, but this catabolic emotion is actually draining you and making you feel worse. Even if you aren’t aware of it, you will bring heaviness to your environment and the people you’re with.
What can you do to channel the energy of victimhood to something more constructive?
As a coach, I’ve been practicing this for a long time, but when overwhelming events occur, anyone can get in a place where they just want to be angry. When this happens, make sure you are in charge of how you feel and how long you’re staying there. If not, everything around you will fall into a negative spiral.
Stay in Observation Mode
Change doesn’t occur with the snap of your finger. Preparing for change begins with simply noticing what’s happening. When emotions are coming into your mind and negative thoughts are popping up, stay in observation mode as long as you can.
Watch what is happening and write down your thoughts. Write down all the emotions you’re experiencing. When situations are difficult, you won’t just feel one emotion. You’ll see anger, guilt, conflict, and more. Write it all down to get it out of your head.
When we notice these emotions, sometimes we tend to get more upset. Be comfortable with it. You are in the right place. Observe and keep going. This is an important step to recycle negative emotion by first identifying the story you’re telling.
Plant the Seeds of Change
Write down where you want to be, how you want to feel, and what the ideal solution would be. Simply take out a piece of paper or take notes on your phone. It takes a few seconds.
This step will help you lower your level of stress and reconnect with your thoughts. You’ll begin to see potential opportunities in your situation.
When I was in the situation of processing all these terrible situations in the world, I was angry, sad, and powerless. The only thing I was thinking about was talking about it in a negative way. At first, I felt a bit better, but then I realized I was sharing my negative energy with the people around me.
I decided it was time to create something out of this negative energy. I wanted to channel it to build, design, or create something powerful. Negativity takes everything out of you, but what if you could create something that served you instead of drained you?
I imagined how I want to show up and make a difference in this world. What could it be? How would it make me feel? What could be the potential outcome?
Transform Energy into Action
The intention was about channeling my sense of powerless and anger toward something that would make me feel good and empowered. So I drove to Home Depot and set up a raised garden bed in my yard in less than 45 minutes. I planted herbs and re-planted all my other plants.
I felt accomplished and positive while I was setting up my garden. My stress level lowered dramatically. My mind was filled with positive thoughts of upcoming plans and delicious recipes with fresh fruit and vegetables. As my body moved muscles I didn’t remember existed, I felt alive. Mentally, I was given so much energy and creative ideas about how to help others. I was so confident that I could do something about it.
Today is the time to plant the seeds of change and focus on what will make you happy. What will help you bring change and positive energy to your life?